Suffering Concussion After Being Hit by Husband – What Can Be Done?
Domestic violence is a harsh reality that many victims struggle to escape, and a recent post on r/askSingapore sheds light on just how difficult it can be to seek justice and support in such situations. A woman shared her experience of suffering a concussion after being hit by her husband, only to find herself entangled in a system that appears reluctant to take action.
She called the police after the assault, but instead of decisive intervention, they referred her to a Family Service Centre (FSC). Her husband later told her that the police had questioned whether she had anger management issues, a comment that left her confused and upset. She suspects he might be gaslighting her or twisting the situation in his favor.
To make matters worse, she is financially dependent, working only part-time while caring for her child, who requires special medical attention. She expressed doubts about pursuing legal protection, fearing that applying for a Personal Protection Order (PPO) would escalate tensions with her husband, whom she still lives with.
The post sparked an outpouring of support and advice from the community, with many urging her to take immediate action to protect herself and her child.
"Get out of there. ASAP." – u/Zealousideal_Ad5450
"Go make a police report +/ medical report. Go see your FSC worker, it's free. Pack an emergency bag for yourself + kid." – u/Ok-Bicycle-12345
Many pointed out that FSC services are free or highly subsidized, countering her belief that therapy would be too expensive. Others emphasized the importance of applying for a PPO, explaining that it serves as legal protection even if they continue living under the same roof.
"PPO makes sense because if he does physically abuse you again, police will be able to take him away. It does not matter if you live in the same house or not." – u/5T4LK3R
Some users expressed frustration over the perceived inaction of the police, noting that domestic abuse cases in Singapore often receive lukewarm responses from authorities.
"Singapore Police and authorities are pro-family, which means probably not helpful unless perhaps you seek a lawyer or get a PPO." – u/Substantial_Math_708
Others pointed out the potential danger of staying with an abuser, warning that violence often escalates over time.
"Abusers don’t stop their abuse but only escalate over time. Someone who loves you would never lay a finger on you to harm you." – u/bakkwabun
Her financial situation also drew attention, with users advising her to seek child maintenance and alimony should she file for divorce. Some encouraged her to gather evidence, such as CCTV footage and medical records, to strengthen her case.
"For your protection, keep medical records and ask the doctor for memos as evidence – apply for PPO and/or Domestic Exclusion Order (DEO)." – u/drwackadoodles
It’s clear from the discussion that the community overwhelmingly supports her taking action to leave the abusive environment. Whether through legal means, financial planning, or seeking external help from organizations like AWARE, users emphasized that her safety and that of her child should be the top priority.
As of her last update, she acknowledged the advice given and expressed intent to visit the FSC for guidance. However, it remains to be seen whether she will be able to take the necessary steps to escape the cycle of abuse.
This case serves as a stark reminder that domestic violence is not just a personal issue—it’s a societal problem that requires stronger enforcement, better support systems, and greater awareness. For those experiencing similar situations, reaching out for help may seem daunting, but support is available.
