Singaporean Men Discuss Malaysian Girlfriends: What’s the Difference?
A Redditor's Curiosity About Malaysian Partners
A recent post on r/SingaporeRaw by u/Sodding_Handsome_Guy asked Singaporean men about their experiences dating Malaysian women. He wanted to know how they compared to Singaporean women in terms of attitude, expectations, and relationships.
"I am just curious, does any SG guy here have Malaysian GFs? If so, how are they like? What do you like about them in comparison to SG girls?" – u/Sodding_Handsome_Guy
Commonly Shared Opinions: Traditional vs. Modern?
Many users responded with their observations, and a few patterns emerged. Some praised Malaysian women for being less materialistic, more traditional, and more down-to-earth than their Singaporean counterparts.
"Less materialistic, hardworking, and down-to-earth. Not that there aren’t Singaporeans who are." – u/monsteraeverything
"MY girls are generally more accepting, have lower expectations, are more traditional, and more open-minded." – u/Grand-Pop-5363
Others noted that while Malaysian women may start off being more traditional, they can change after spending time in Singapore due to the fast-paced and stressful environment.
"A friend said that they are fantastic as they still retained some of the more traditional values… that is until they stayed too long in SG and got influenced." – u/DaftSinkies
Do Malaysian Women Have Fewer Expectations?
One key debate was whether Malaysian women have lower expectations than Singaporean women. Some believed that Malaysian women are less demanding when it comes to lifestyle, wealth, and material goods.
"Lesser expectations seem good. I hear SG guys saying SG girls are entitled." – u/Sodding_Handsome_Guy
"I think SG women are less money-minded. Malaysian GFs have fewer expectations. China women are the most money-minded." – u/FanAdministrative12
However, others pointed out that this isn't necessarily true, and that Malaysian women who move to Singapore may develop similar expectations.
"They come to SG to work and feel superior to Singaporeans. For me, I prefer naturally confident and stable girls. No need to compete or TRY to look Singaporean." – u/CycleAffectionate169
"They are also money-minded, especially the ones who come SG to work. But their money-mindedness is more about meeting basic needs rather than luxury." – u/UnintelligibleThing
Are Malaysian Women Better Girlfriends But Worse Wives?
Some users argued that Malaysian women are great girlfriends but can become difficult as wives, especially when it comes to family obligations and financial expectations.
"Very sweet as GFs, but the minute status changes to wife, they become fierce and controlling. They are traditional in the sense they expect the husband to earn more, provide for the household, and pay for everything." – u/Bug_Top_4068
Others cautioned that family obligations can become a bigger issue, especially if the woman’s family frequently visits from Malaysia and expects financial support.
"If their family comes in from Malaysia, need to give up the room for them to stay. Bring them out to eat, play, everything you pay." – u/Bug_Top_4068
Regional Differences: Does It Matter Where They’re From?
Some users pointed out that Malaysian women from different regions have different personalities.
"KL girls are 'atas' if from a good family and reasonably good-looking. They know how to find a BF who can give them a good life. JB girls, no matter how well-educated, can be loud and ill-mannered." – u/CycleAffectionate169
"Ipoh and Sarawak women are 'very traditional.' KL and JB girls are more similar to SG girls but without the high expectations." – u/Pitiful_Community844
What About Long-Term Practicality?
Some users highlighted the practical challenges of dating and marrying a Malaysian, especially when it comes to buying property, commuting, and long-term living arrangements.
"You can’t buy a BTO unless your Malaysian GF is a PR. So you’re stuck in resale territory, which is terrible for a young couple." – u/SnooHedgehogs190
"Should ROM in Malaysia, easier to get PR." – u/DaftSinkies
Others saw an advantage in retiring in Malaysia, as living costs are lower, and one could afford a bigger house with the same income.
"Marry a Malaysian. You’ll have the option to retire early if you can accept a lower standard of living, but better quality of life." – u/monsteraeverything
Final Thought: Are Malaysian Women Really That Different?
While many Singaporean men appreciate Malaysian women for being less materialistic and more traditional, others pointed out that this is not always the case and that expectations evolve based on circumstances.
At the end of the day, personal compatibility matters more than nationality. Whether Singaporean or Malaysian, finding the right partner depends on shared values, mutual respect, and understanding each other’s expectations.
Would you consider dating or marrying a Malaysian partner? Or do you think nationality doesn’t matter in relationships?
