Dating in Your 30s: A Look at Singapore’s Scene
Dating in your 30s in Singapore is a unique experience, filled with highs and lows. Many singles express feelings of excitement, frustration, and even resignation when navigating the modern dating landscape. A recent discussion on Reddit’s r/askSingapore provides a glimpse into what it’s like to date in Singapore as a single 30-something.
The Struggles of Dating in Your 30s
One Reddit user, Pamomilo, shared her experience of ending a three-month exclusive connection, expressing frustration over the cycle of getting to know someone, feeling excited, and then facing disappointment.
“It was going so well in the first few dates but when we had a small argument, I felt like he was really impatient and had a strong avoidant trait when it comes to conflict management.” – Pamomilo
She also mentioned the pressure of time when considering future plans, such as having children.
Some Choose to Stay Single
Many commenters noted that they are content being single and don’t feel anxious about relationships.
“I don't feel anxious about not finding someone because I honestly enjoy being alone. I just wonder if my life would be better if I manage to find the right one so I still go on dating apps. Being with the wrong one is way worse than being alone.” – Pseudonymous100419
“32M here, personally I don’t care about finding someone. If have good, if don’t have also good kinda thing.” – frankymun
First Dates Feel Like Job Interviews
Several users shared that dating in their 30s often feels transactional, with questions about finances and long-term goals coming up early.
“As a >30 <35 M, sometimes first dates feel like job interviews. They'll ask things like your job, salary, house, education, etc. I understand that people in their 30s are more particular about one's financial background, but I still can't get used to being interrogated on my first date.” – Wyvernken
“Female here. I have been asked about my education, family, and job on the first date since I hit 29 years old. It’s painful.” – silverfish241
Holding Out for the Right One
While some are indifferent, others are still hopeful about finding the right partner, even if it takes time.
“My bestie was always anxious as well. She’s always on dating apps, meeting people, improving herself. However, she just can’t find the right one. The funny side was all her exes got married in the next relationship after her. So she gave up finding one, relaxed, and let it be. Well, last year in her early thirties, she found her right one just from a random meeting.” – Strawberryfizzdrop
“Met someone when I was >35. Within 1 year, got married and welcoming first kid.” – 56redditor65
Conclusion
Dating in Singapore in your 30s is a mixed bag. While some have grown disillusioned, others remain optimistic about finding the right person. Whether actively dating or taking a break, one thing is clear: the dating scene is evolving, and everyone navigates it differently.
